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January 6, 2012 by Alison Hodgson 4 Comments

If you read yesterday’s post you might be thinking, “But Alison I know the parents of a child with special needs and they are amazing and, when the child was diagnosed, I did think ‘If anyone can handle this…’ and I told them and they thanked me.  So there!”

You know what?  Before Christopher, I said it to another couple whose first child has Down’s Syndrome, and it was so true: they are amazing and the mother taught children with Down’s syndrome, as had her mother before her, I mean seriously, this woman had training and experience.  If there was anyone who could handle a child with challenges…but when it was said to me, over and over again it wasn’t a comfort, it just felt like pressure.

This is what we need to ask ourselves before we speak to someone going through something: what are we  really trying to say?

“I have so much respect for you.”

“You’re a wonderful mother.”

“I admire you.”

Back up.  What we need to ask ourselves first: does anything need to be said at all?

I’m here to tell you, most cases, it doesn’t.

What do you think?

Filed Under: Be Haven, Christopher, motherhood

September 5, 2008 by Alison Hodgson 2 Comments

It’s been a long week.  Lydia started a new school too – sixth grade.  It hasn’t been easy being the new kid and being her mom hasn’t been a cake walk either.  I haven’t blogged, because it takes time getting up early, packing lunches, waiting for buses, driving Kindergartners to school, neducating homeschoolers, praying on the hour for lonely girls, rejecting plans to beat up would be mean girls and such.

We’re tired.
All of us are seeking comfort and rest in our own particular way:  Eden and Christopher are playing Star Wars Legos on the Wii, Lydia is baking and Paul and I are lounging on our bed laptops propped on our legs.
“Are we being terrible parents?”  I asked Paul.
He paused from his typing for a second to mumble, “No.”
He didn’t recommend taking the long view here, but it was implied.

https://alisonhodgson.com/2008/09/396/

Filed Under: exhaustion, love, Lydia, motherhood, school

August 1, 2007 by Alison Hodgson 1 Comment

I love this picture. I was sitting at the island checking my e-mail when I realized that Eden was taking a pair of scissors to a FedEx box…I don’t know why. She was so intent, hunkered down there on the floor so I clicked on the Photo Booth and while the picture was counting down Lydia walked into the frame. I love that my home is my own big photo booth, that I just keep clicking the button and I’m never sure exactly what the picture will be.

https://alisonhodgson.com/2007/08/675/

Filed Under: motherhood, Photo Booth

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